SA – ONE could swear that Ngipheni Ngcobo is in her 30s. But she is actually 64 years old and is still a virgin.
Ngipheni from KwaMafunze in Pietermaritzburg is among the maidens who are going to King Goodwill Zwelithini’s umkhosi womhlanga (reed dance) tomorrow. The event will be held at Enyokeni in Nongoma, north of KZN.
Ngipheni said she has been part of umkhosi womhlanga since she was a teenager.
“Before we go to the ceremony, our guardians test us to make sure that we are still virgins.
“This is because the ceremony is only for virgins,” said Ngipheni.
While she’s still a virgin, Ngipheni said she has longed for s e x before.
“The only way I could deal with the longing was by remembering my parents’ advice.
“Longing for s e x is natural if you are a human being.”
She said during her younger days, she used to have many boys proposing love to her.
“I wanted to remain innocent so I turned them down.”
Ngipheni revealed that she had a boyfriend once who later became her fiance.
“In our days our fiances never rushed us into having s e x. They respected us.
“I separated with my fiance because he cheated on me,” Ngipheni said.
She added that she was happy that she’s safe from sexually transmitted diseases.
She stresses that she is not saying young women should stay away from s e x and marriage.
“If you have s e x do it responsibly. Do it after marriage.
“Once you are married, ask your partner to go for an HIV test before you engage in s e x,” said Ngipheni.
“This will reduce the number of people with HIV and teenage pregnancy.”
Ngipheni’s guardian, Zithobile Mbhele, said she has been working with her for more than 30 years.
“She is a good influence on young women in the area.
“We are proud of her. She has never missed umkhosi womhlanga,” said Zithobile.
More than 20 000 maidens are expected to attend this year’s annual reed dance which starts today.