Murume akandiramba now after 4 years He wants us to work things out – Please Help Tete Molly
Question: Makadii Tete Molly… I am 34, got married ndikachata when I was 19 , have 2 kids aged 10 and 8. Kafamily kangu nemurume wangu had a decent lifestyle , our own house , umwe neumwe mota , and kids attend good schools.When I was 26 my hubby told me point blank he didnt feel anything for me anymore, but he loved our kids too much to chase me out alone achisara nevana or to throw me and them out or even iye to move out leaving us alone.
He started seeing some girl, whom he explained to kuti haachadi mukadzi asi haaizondisiya , they even came to me to verify neni . I was just finishing my 1st degree and enrolled for masters’ hangu kuti ndiwane kukanganwa nhamo. Ndakarwadziwa, ndichichema day and night but kuhama dzake , nekuvana we pretended as if things were ok . I eventually gave him my demands ndakaona kuti hapana reverse, murume anga ashinga kuti haachada .Even though aisarara neni he would come home on time, aitozobuda vana varara , go with me kuchurch to keep up appearances kune vanhu vekunze , and never discuss with me his girlfriend issues , but believe me since then haana kumbondibata kana kugumha zvako .
He kept on telling me to see someone else coz aisava nebasa nazvo .After , 4 years of no love or kusvirwa , just cohabiting , I got a job which sent me out of Zim so often and murume would never ask kwandiri kuenda or kwandiri kubva, kana nyaya taitaura through vana kana varipo ( oh ipa mama mari yechingwa, bvunza mama kuti pane food here , asi takagara tese mumba) .
I then met some business man 52, on the plane ndokuwirirana, reluctant to marry coz he married twice before but was looking for companionship just like me. Rudo rwakatanga kutsva veduwe, he would wine and dine me, go for shopping all in Dubai, Singapore, Malaysia etc, sviro was good. Everything changed, kana neni ndakapa kutenda kuti inga ndakanaka wani. My hubby noticed changes, ndaingovawo munhu anofara so, who makes sure is looking good all the time, vana ndichienda navo ku holiday but business man wangu aindipa mari yacho , he even bought me another car , made new friends dzandaisangana nadzo kuma outings, became more sociable you name it …partly coz ndanga ndawana someone who appreciated me and had grown past kubatikana nemurume wangu .
Now hubby says he wants us to work things out, telling me he left that girl kare which I never bothered to check hangu , he said ndanga ndapindwa nemweya wetsvina…. I was considering it hangu , tiri pamatalks kudaro hanzi I want to know who u were seeing and womudzosera what he bought you, ndikamuti isn’t I work , ndakatenga zvinhu ndega . I told him that’s a subject I will not discuss with him, handina kubvuma I was seeing anyone,
handina kuramba. Now he says ndakufonera tete if u don’t want to say, and he is willing to tell my family his side of the story. Told him akadaro ndikokurambana kwedu officially, asi ari kutoita nharo hanzi someone has to intervene kana ndisi kuda kutaura . Handidi kutaura nezvemuface wangu uya …never never . It’s my secret and something I was forced into …… and I feel ari kuda kungoziva nekuti akurwadziwa chete . I feel I can forgive him hangu coz apart from kusandida in all this , he was there for his kids and me , zvisina kusvirwa kana
love , just care .Do u think things will work out ….
Answer: This is serious my dear… firstly he might have been affected nechirwere nemusikana wake waidanana naye so i suggest give it time don’t push yourself into anything.Rudo makes everything easy but 4 years is a long time to get back nemunhu just becoz iye is now jealous… The Last decision maker ndiwe but inini i want to ask my readers what they think maybe tingawane a better solution to your problem my dear….
Please comment tiwane a better solution for her…